“Train up a child in the way he should go.” Pr 22:6
The words “the way he should go” mean: “The way best suited to your child’s unique make-up, abilities, and God-given personality.” Perfectionism violates these characteristics, encouraging someone to be something he wasn’t intended to become in order to gain approval. To help overcome this:
(1) Convince yourself that you’re valuable to God because of who you are,
not because of what you accomplish.
(2) Understand that it’s impossible to complete every assignment without
errors. Think about mistakes as opportunities to experiment, clarify personal
values, learn and improve thinking and decision-making skills.
(3) Share your mistakes and poor decisions with a good friend. Discuss your
flaws and how you’ve grown through them.
(4) Realize that perfectionists get “tunnel vision,” locking themselves into limited and limiting options for problem-solving. There’s more than one way to solve a problem, organize a project, and get things done. Discuss some of these other ways as a means of expanding perceptions and introducing greater flexibility into your life.
(5) Celebrate the effort – not just the result. Be thankful for things unrelated to achievement, such as generosity, honesty and kindness.
(6) Reduce pressure. Do you really need all those advanced courses, or to participate in every extracurricular activity? Perfectionism is “too much of a good thing.” It starts early and people don’t “grow out of it” naturally. Helping reduce it systematically, will improve your quality of life. Or maybe someone else’s.
(From the book "Word 4u 2day")
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